In this episode from The Pain of Patriarchy series, Tiffany shares her experience.
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Showing posts with label abuse. Show all posts
Friday, June 8, 2012
Episode 47: The Pain of Patriarchy: "Seen As Less Than"
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In this episode from The Pain of Patriarchy series, Tiffany shares her experience.
In this episode from The Pain of Patriarchy series, Tiffany shares her experience.
Thursday, May 17, 2012
Episode 40: "Be Yourself (within certain parameters)" — Depression & Mormon Women Part I
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Despite how common depression is, there is a lot of denial and secrecy attached to it. In this panel, Sybil is joined by panelists Amelia and Jenne A, and guests Lisa and Kendahl to discuss their experiences in living with depression.
In this first part, we discuss depression in Utah and how the idea of being a perfect Mormon woman can contribute to depression. We also talk about our own symptoms of depression. Here is a list of those symptoms:
Symptoms of Depression
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In this first part, we discuss depression in Utah and how the idea of being a perfect Mormon woman can contribute to depression. We also talk about our own symptoms of depression. Here is a list of those symptoms:
Symptoms of Depression
- apathy and detachment; difficulty connecting with the living world and being a part of what is happening
- a sense of powerlessness
- inward blaming, self-faulting, feeling worthless
- excessive sleeping; also insomnia or difficulty sleeping; being highly self-critical
- physical numbness or pain
- asthma and breathing problems
- mental darkness; feeling under a low ceiling
- difficulty getting out of bed
- self isolation; being tense and withdrawn
- irritable bowel syndrome
- migraines
- feeling like the body is falling apart; feeling old and in pain
- constant hopelessness; feeling unable to make life feel worthwhile
- eating too much or too little
- disrupted daily living
- being mean/angry at people you love
- helpless crying
- absence of appetite (for food, sex, things that usually bring pleasure)
- escaping (into food, television, books, etc.)
- inability to concentrate or focus; inability to "get things done" (normal, daily things)
- being emotionally numb or overly dramatic (no middle ground or normal functioning)
- being an appendage to someone else, not able to be the main character in own life (things happening to you rather than being an active agent)
- feeling suicidal
Sunday, April 8, 2012
Episode 36: The Descent of the Wounded Soul
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Special Episode for Easter: There are so many of us who hide our wounded souls, fearful that others will see our pain. Often we are drowned in feelings of hopelessness and despair of ever healing.
In this short episode, I give my own interpretation of Christ's atonement and resurrection. In my view, he is showing us the path of our own healing. When Christ said, "Come follow me," perhaps he was showing us the way into our own darkness.
Isaiah Reference: Isaiah 61:3
Please share your own experiences of wounding and healing in the comments. Please also feel free to share things that have helped you on your journey.
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In this short episode, I give my own interpretation of Christ's atonement and resurrection. In my view, he is showing us the path of our own healing. When Christ said, "Come follow me," perhaps he was showing us the way into our own darkness.
Isaiah Reference: Isaiah 61:3
Please share your own experiences of wounding and healing in the comments. Please also feel free to share things that have helped you on your journey.
Wednesday, November 9, 2011
Episode 31: Good Girl Syndrome Part II
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Many of us learned to be "good girls," meaning that we understood that our purpose was to please others and not to please ourselves. Layered in with this teaching were messages about sex and sexuality.
We didn't want to be chewed gum or a licked cupcake. We wanted to keep ourselves safe from the sexual urges of the opposite sex. And, of course, not to be sexual ourselves; that was associated with sinning.
While these messages were likely intended to keep us safe, they did so at a cost,
which usually reveals itself in the marriage
bed. What does a good girl do with sex?
Join Sybil, Amelia, Sara, Heather, and Jenni for the second half of their discussion about their experiences with and the causes and effects of Good Girl Syndrome.
For resources and to comment, please see Part I.
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We didn't want to be chewed gum or a licked cupcake. We wanted to keep ourselves safe from the sexual urges of the opposite sex. And, of course, not to be sexual ourselves; that was associated with sinning.
While these messages were likely intended to keep us safe, they did so at a cost,
which usually reveals itself in the marriage
bed. What does a good girl do with sex?
Join Sybil, Amelia, Sara, Heather, and Jenni for the second half of their discussion about their experiences with and the causes and effects of Good Girl Syndrome.
For resources and to comment, please see Part I.
Episode 30: Good Girl Syndrome Part I
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Join Sybil, Amelia, Sara, Heather, and Jenni for the first part of their discussion about their experiences with and the causes and effects of Good Girl Syndrome.
Resources
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Resources
- And They Were Not Ashamed by Laura Brotherson
- The Mormon Missionary Position
- Passionate Hearts edited by Wendy Maltz
- Intimate Kisses edited by Wendy Maltz
- The Soul of Sex by Thomas Moore
- Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin
- Women's Therapy Center on Vulvar Vestibulitis
- Do Atheists Have Better Sex Lives?
- Mormon Stories: 245 Pornography, Masturbation, Sex and Marriage in Mormonism
- Mormon Stories: 214-216 LDS Female Sexuality with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
- Mormon Stories: 300-301: LDS Women and Sexual Desire with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
- Mormon Stories: 280: How to Have Better Sex in Your Mormon Marriage
- Mormon Expression: Episode 120a: Female Sexuality in the LDS Culture Part 1
- Mormon Expression: Episode 120b: Female Sexuality in the LDS Culture Part 2
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Episode 26: The Layers of Sex Education
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What were you taught about sexuality by your parents, in school, and at church? Could you name your genitals correctly as a child? How did you gain your most valuable knowledge about sexuality? Often, sex education fails to empower women about their sexuality and instead makes them feel that they need to be the gatekeepers of chastity and keep the boys in line. In this panel discussion, Sybil, Sara, Juliane, and Heather discuss their experiences with and hopes for sex education.
Resources
If you have ideas, stories, or suggestions for Sara's Mormon Sex Ed project, email her at mormonsexedproject @ gmail.com
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Resources
If you have ideas, stories, or suggestions for Sara's Mormon Sex Ed project, email her at mormonsexedproject @ gmail.com
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Episode 25: "Sacred all the way through" — Owning Her Lesbian Self Part II
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Here is the second half of the interview with Stacey where she tells about coming out as a lesbian, getting her master's degree, continuing her relationship with her husband through their divorce and departure from the church, and finding her feet as a whole self.
To leave comments and for resources, please see Part I of Stacey's story.
As you leave comments, remember that Daughters of Mormonism seeks to provide a safe place for women to share their stories. This is a real story from a real person. Please see the Comment Policy for further details.
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To leave comments and for resources, please see Part I of Stacey's story.
As you leave comments, remember that Daughters of Mormonism seeks to provide a safe place for women to share their stories. This is a real story from a real person. Please see the Comment Policy for further details.
Episode 24: "Sacred all the way through" — Owning Her Lesbian Self Part I
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After her mother converted to Mormonism, Stacey was baptized a member of the church at age eight. The church offered her a place of safety and stability in the midst of difficult family life. She went on to attend BYU, serve a mission, marry a returned missionary in the temple, and have four children. But all the while, she knew she was different. No matter how much she threw herself into being the best possible Mormon, there was always something hiding below the surface ... that she was a lesbian.
Stacey will be watching the comments so she can respond to questions and discuss issues brought up in her story.
As you leave comments, remember that Daughters of Mormonism seeks to provide a safe place for women to share their stories. This is a real story from a real person. Please see the Comment Policy for further details.
Resources from Stacey
Support Groups
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Stacey will be watching the comments so she can respond to questions and discuss issues brought up in her story.
As you leave comments, remember that Daughters of Mormonism seeks to provide a safe place for women to share their stories. This is a real story from a real person. Please see the Comment Policy for further details.
Resources from Stacey
Support Groups
- Affirmation: Gay & Lesbian Mormons: Women's Links
- Mormon Lesbian Big Tent Support Group
- Mormon Lesbian Yahoo Group
- Dance of the Dissident Daughter by Sue Monk Kidd
- The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
- There's Nothing Wrong with You by Cheri Huber
- Healing Trauma by Peter A. Levine
- Article on The Key to Healing Trauma by Peter A. Levine
- The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris
- Wikipedia article on panopticon tower structure
- Refuge by Terry Tempest Williams and a review of Refuge
- Review of The God We Never Knew by Marcus Borg
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